Brief answers to the questions I hear in coaching sessions and workshops (the ones you're thinking but not asking out loud)

"Sure, that's fine." My partner's words stopped me cold. Not what she said, but the resignation behind them. She'd stopped offering input because it didn't matter. I'd already decided. The armor I thought I only wore at work? It had followed me home.

A few months ago, I dove 105 feet to a shipwreck in Honduras. In that profound silence, I realized something about dominant leaders: What you see on the surface—the control, the intensity—isn't the whole story. Here's what's really happening beneath the armor, and why it matters.